Battling with negativity
Compassion. Sometimes the best way out of being in a negative situation is to change your perspective so even when you’re feeling empathetically on overload you have to change your vibrational state. Act from compassion instead of hate
Act from Love instead of fear
Listen instead of talk or think over them.
I live in a 5 person household there is always friction building between different views but i’m learning the high road of compassion and positivity is truly the best way to view people. It’s all perspective. You can look out the window and see heaven on earth by seeing the beauty in others and in nature or you can look out and see hatred, negativity, judgment, cruelty, etc. I feel more humbled in a sense the more i open myself to listening, even when people criticize me in any shape or form i try to see it from a higher perspective. You can’t fight fire with fire, it just creates more fire but what if you decide to become water instead of fueling the argument?
So truthfully there is no need to battle or fight with negativity, we can all see that we have both light and dark within us but it honestly comes down to listening to others. Truly listening, looking them in the eyes, hearing their frequency channel and tuning into their energy, THAT is where true connection lives and breathes, the more you start listening instead of “seeing” the more you will start hearing people’s true souls. I find that really enchanting, the ability to listen to eachother rather than talk over people. Isn’t that what everyone wants deep down to be heard? why do we post statuses and write on all this social media, isn’t it merely a way to be seen and heard?
I guess over time i’ve just learned that to truly see the experience, you have to see both sides and if we don’t see the two way street how do we even get across in the first place. It comes from a place in the heart.
The true magic of overcoming negativity is being putting yourself in the eyes of the people around you. Everyday someone has a story, maybe it’s just the right one you need to share and hear to develop your own story. And we weave our stories together through the veil of synchroncity that connects to the next experience and the infinite realm of memories interconnects us all through the music of listening to other’s frequencies. It’s all within the listening. It’s in music, it’s in your voice. You can even hear it now.
Porn and relationships
Well firstly when anyone usually asks me for relationship advice, the first think i am always thinking is why are you talking to me, you need to be talking to him/her about this? Because truthfully like you said honesty goes a long way, that is the only way to truly face your issues is by talking through them. For instance if Adam does something that pisses me off, i will flat out tell him “what you said really hurt me and this is why” and we’ll discuss our problems. I seriously stand by the statement, Don’t go to bed angry, instead stay up all night working on your problems because it’s sooooo true. Also i see this a lot, a lot of relationship issues come down to a couple of things:
Falling in love with idea of love instead of the actual person
and most importantly No Communication which creates mindgames
Guys are way more straightforward at least in my experience, if you don’t tell them what is up, they can’t read your mind(well most of them ;) ) so i think your number 1 issue here is that you need to tell him about this and how it is making you feel and why it is making you feel this way. Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and talk through your issues, it’s the only way to fully heal and release them. the more we bottle things within us, one day we just can explode or end up with a blocked throat chakra either one isn’t very pretty.
You say you can’t put your heart in it 100% anymore and you don’t feel happy but is this moreso based from your past relationship with him or your present relationship with him? I feel like you are gravitating more towards what you experienced in the past with him instead of embracing the present view of eachother. I also see a self-worth issue here which is all about the heart chakra and learning to love yourself. Also I’m sure we are all guilt of watching porn at some point in our lives but we don’t have to feel ashamed about it now. I know Adam has watched porn when we were dating and i don’t feel jealous of that because so have i at one point or another. I don’t anymore because we live together it’s not necessary. I really feel like porn is just something you watch because you can’t be with your lover at that precise moment but usually during porn you’re thinking about them anyway, am i right or am i right? He’s not sleeping with the Porn star, you ARE his porn star, you’re the one in his bed, so being jealous is truly unnecessary.
I think we’ve talked about this before but you cannot let Porn rule your love life, that is not remotely how it works in the real world, porn is not only very objectifying towards Women but also towards Men. Not every Women looks like a porn star and not every Man looks like a porn star because we are all beautifully unique and have many different shapes and sizes. Even our breasts, vaginas and penises are all different, they are not remotely the same as porn stars, we could go on for hours here comparing but i think that’s a bit tedious. I’m sure your breasts are beautiful, you have to stop comparing yourselves to others and accept yourself as you are!
I had this very same problem for sooo long and ironically Awakening and Pregnancy is what snapped me out of it. I used to fight so much with diet and body image. I actually passed out from not eatting for 48 hours once i was a mess. Over the years after healing I just no longer cared if i was prettier than a celebrity or model, instead i just embraced who i was INSIDE and that’s truly what matters. Because god when i was like 9 months pregnant i felt like a ham i gained about 75lbs but i was so glowing in new Mommyhood that i just felt like a Goddess, a true archetype of the Mother Goddess and it got me thinking about sizes and how even during pregnancy when you’re supposed to be gaining weight people will still criticize you. My dr was actually concerned i was gaining too much but i couldn’t help it i even tried eatting better i still gained weight because guess what i was pregnant. Long story short, even when i was pregnant people are still thinking i need to lose weight, what the fuck? That is how warped society is when it comes to body image. You have to stop listening to them and listen to yourself.
There’s a beautiful quote i always loved, ” Find the Goddess inside yourself, instead of looking for the God in someone else” ~ Francesca lia block
And that is really what comes down to, appreciate everything you are within you. Our body is a shell, a container, a vessel of truth and communication and most importantly our body is love. The more we accept ourselves as we are, the more we find we are perfect with all our imperfections.
I honestly bet if you actually asked your boyfriend how he sees you, he would say you’re his queen, his goddess, his own porn star.
There is nothing to be jealous of but you do need to accept and love yourself for who you truly are, love <3
hope this helps you
love and healing light
So at first i didn’t want to share this but it just seems too cool not to since i started the gratitude movement i’ve been receiving more “thank you”s from all sorts of people than actual Questions, i mean how neat is that?
strangely i am actually down to about 3 questions lol
Talk about some cool telepathic Synchronicity going on :D
I express so much gratitude to all you lovely followers
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This one intrigued me so i’ve been pondering on it, there are a couple things that stand out to me. I think it’s very possible she was visiting you, it could of been something like a subconscious message to you. The dress part is what really seems to stick out to me. White always symbolizes purity, angelic energy, or innocence where as the red implies passion, power, courage, our roots. The gold implies Spirituality, Ascension, the golden path, the golden child, Gold is one of the highest levels of Alchemy, turning base metals into gold. So interesting choice of colors for the dream.
The fact that she came *back* to life reminds me of resurrection and rebirth since this is your dream i see it as you’re entering into a different cycle of your life, perhaps deep change is coming and she’s kinda like a gateway messenger from your dreams. People can do that, like i remember this man came into my dream named ibis and as soon as i woke up i knew i was going to give birth that week. It’s about that “trigger” there is a reason this dream is haunting you, that’s why i feel like she was more of a messenger or vistor rather than just a symbolic version of you. Since she is also much older, she could be seen as the archetype of the Crone, the wise woman. This would also symbolize a end of a cycle in your life. The Crone also enables the rite of passage into wisdom, freedom and personal power.
Also the dress can be more symbolic in a sense, as all dreams are subconscious symbols, you were giving her a new dress, giving yourself a “change of attire” giving yourself a change in appearance and meaning.
In general i see this dream as a symbol of rebirth and resurrection. The turning of the ages, the turning of time, the completion of a cycle within your life. She just served as a messenger to tell you about this. When someone resurrects themselves within a dream, it’s a sign of spiritual progress, rebirth, infinity. It means an awakening is coming….
Very good symbol to have within your dream :)
I hope this helps you
sending love <3
Day 5: Magic Money
“Gratitude is riches. Complaint is poverty.”
If there’s a lack of money in your life, understand that feeling worried, envious, jealous, disappointed, discouraged, doubtful, or fearful about money can never bring more money to you, because those feelings come from a lack of gratitude for the money you have. Complaining about money, arguing about money, getting frustrated about money, being critical of the cost of something, or making someone else feel bad about money are not acts of gratitude, and the money in your life can never improve; it will worsen. No matter what your current situation, the very thought that you don’t have enough money is being ungrateful for the money you have. You have to get your current situation out of your mind and instead feel grateful for the money you do have, so the money in your life can magically increase!
“Whoever has gratitude (for money) will be given more, and she or he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have gratitude (for money), even what she or he has will be taken from her or him.”
Sit down and take a few minutes to think back through your childhood before you had any or much money. As you recall each memory where money was paid for you, say and feel the magic words, thank you, with all your heart for each instance
Did you always have food to eat
Did you live in a home?
Did you receive an education over many years? ie. (K-12)
How did you travel to school each day?
Did you go on any vacations or day trips?
Did you have toys, a pet, a bike?
Did you have clothes as you grew quickly form one size to the next?
Did you travel in a car
Did you watch television, make phone calls, use lights, electricity, and water?
Did you go to the dentist?
Did you play sports?
All of these things cost money, and you received them all – at no charge! As you travel back through memories of your childhood and youth, you’ll realize how many things you received that equate to hard-earned money. Be grateful for every single instance and memory, because when you can feel sincere gratitude for the money you’ve received in the past, your money will magically increase in the future! It is guaranteed by Universal law.
Today to continue the practice, we’re going to take a dollar bill and with a sticker write the words:
THANK YOU FOR ALL THE MONEY I HAVE BEEN GIVEN THROUGHOUT MY LIFE
Take your Magic Dollar Bill with you today and put it in your wallet, purse, or pocket. At least once in the morning, once in the afternoon, or as many times as you want, take it out and hold the bill in your hands. Read your written words and be truly grateful for the abundance of money you’ve been given in your life.
After today, put your Magic Dollar Bill in a place where you will continue to see it every day to remind you to be grateful for the abundance of money you have been given, never forgetting that the more times you look at your Magic Dollar Bill and feel gratitude for the money you have been given, the more magic you will bring forth.
From this day forward, make a promise to yourself that whenever you receive any money, whether it’s your salary for work, a refund or discount, or something that someone gives you that costs money, you will be truly grateful for it.
- Count your blessings
- Hold your Magic Rock before sleep and be thankful for the best thing that happened
- Be grateful for everything that flows into your life, for everything a reason. Don’t hope, Know ;)
I like everything. Or at least I did, for 48 hours. Literally everything Facebook sent my way, I liked—-even if I hated it.
A bit of a deviation of what i usually post but it struck me so much i feel i HAVE to post this. We all know this has been going on but do we truly see the extent of what they are doing to society? Facebook is practically worse than television. Remember when we started a discussion on how draining technology and specifically fb has become?
Facebook has become nothing but a brain-washing algorithm of various ads and websites.
You are so much more than a like button
"I’m an inveterate cannabis user, and I wish in a way that I could get a slightly better grip on my cannabis use, because I think the real way to do cannabis is like once a week, by yourself, in silen…
I found this really interesting, my view is similar to Terence’s where i feel it does lift the veil between the unconscious and the conscious minds, it’s also a chakra cleanser in many respects because you will notice your thought patterns shift towards what you need to work on with yourself or maybe you just need to relax. Anyway felt like sharing since i’m sure many of us use Cannabis
The Key is to Be Kind to Yourself, Always
Integrate Your Divine Masculine and Feminine
People often ask me for energy updates and what’s up on the planet these days. If I had to put into a few words, what I feel we are asked to do - by the divine, it is to become more deeply balanced. If I look at humanity as a whole, I’m not sure what kind of report card I could give out. To the loving men and women in my life, I see vast growth, improvements and kindnesses.
While staying balanced may sound easy if one is cruising along through life, I’m talking about a deeper kind of spiritual balance. It’s easy to say, “Oh yea, I’m in balance.” It takes vigilance to find and remain in the deeper balance.
I am talking about a true balance of all parts of you. This means balancing the inner with the outer, the masculine with the feminine, the active with the passive and the adult with the inner child.
So you might ask yourself a few questions.
1. Am I gentle and kind most of the time?
2. Do I care about myself and then others?
3. Am I assertive when I need to be?
4. Do I take special care of myself
5. Do I listen to my intuition?
6. Do I trust myself?
7. Am I self reflective as well as self-protective?
8. Do I have loved ones who help protect me?
9. Do I meditate, relax and breathe deeply daily?
10. Do I request guidance from wise loved ones on the questions of my life?
11. Do I spend time going out as well as going in?
12. Do I rest in nature as frequently as possible?
13. Do I exercise and do things that are fun?
14. Do I remember to play or listen to music?
These are just clues to finding your balance. Each of us has to find our own way. There is no prescription that works for everyone. You are the one making your decisions. Your loved ones, peers and pressures may influence you but it is you who makes your way and lives with the decisions.
I am here to remind you that wherever you are on the path, there are always ways to get back home, to greater well-being, better health, better attitudes, and better situations.
Lots of love,
Artist ~ Outi Harma