msleighann asked theawakenedstate:
i recently watched a video about empaths attracting narcassists in relationships and i have noticed i have done so recently. do you have any advice on what i could tell them without them being offended. i have nothing against that person, i just know he’s not good for me. what do i do?
One question for you why are you asking me something you ALREADY know? Remember also WE ARE NOT VICTIMS and you do not need my validation to leave someone who is unhealthy to your well being. have the courage to love yourself and remove that negativity out of your life. You can NOT be blessed when you have such negative energy around you.
As for attracting NPD’s (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) because you are an empath, I can say yes and no to this question. In general empaths are starseeds and have chosen to come here and have difficult lives as to awaken those in the dark and to have those experiences. The pain is NEVER in vain, please understand that.
As for offending the NPD FORGET ABOUT IT, They are NARCISSIT and will be offended by any AND everything. More than likely this is NOT your first NPD encounter and if you truly soul search and be honest with yourself you will see this is probably a true statement.
If you TRULY want to disconnect from the NPD, I strongly advocate you just WALK AWAY.
No explanation, no conversations about it. JUST GO. NPD’S are the best liars ever and they have a way of making you believe them EVEN when you know you should not. Besides depending on what type of NPD they are (sexual or intellectual), it could get VERY ugly and violent. If you really want to leave I warmly propose to do it with a well thought out plan you keep to yourself & without the NPD”er having a clue you are leaving. Then leave in secret. Just up and go one day.
RUN MSLEIGHANN RUN.
Cuts out the drama and the emotional bull that NO empath needs.
Another thing I would kindly recommend is that you seek counseling with a therapist that is familiar or specializes in NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).
FYI-Most therapist have no idea what this is nor how to council anyone especially a woman who has been a subject of an NPD’S obsession. I suggest find an old soul therapist too!
NPD’S slyly chip away at your core and have you believing their lie so you have to undo that doubt and self-esteem that no longer exists. Most people do not realize they have been involved with an NPD personality and it is 9 times out of 10 that one of the parents were NPD. There is an entire dynamic with the NPD family and it is quite complicated so I implore you to dedicate yourself to you and your healing during this time to do the inside work it takes to not seek another NPD. So you can live your authentic self.
Here are a few links and I highly recommend even if it not the mother who is the NPD to get her book it is very informative and I know you will see some of you in it.
It’s All About Me! Recovery for Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents
The Mirror Effect by Dr. Drew Pinsky
Recognizing, understanding and overcoming the debilitating impact of maternal narcissism by Karyl McBride, Ph.D.
In closing, Msleighann, recovering from a NPD relationship is tough work and I send the angels with you on your road to self-discovery and wish you the best. I also ask that you take it easy on yourself & love yourself unconditional through this process of letting go.
Be well and sending you loads of support and love!
D. Div., U.L.P. Rev., M. S. L.C.